2011 goals: divorce, job and travel

(CNN) – Quit dating? Get a divorce? Not get upset at idiots?
New Year’s resolutions can be very personal or can be the perennial favorites of losing weight or spending less money.
CNN asked iReporters to share some of their goals. One woman, who requested her name not be used, said she was making getting a divorce her priority in 2011 after being separated from her husband for three years. She wrote she will file by January 31.
She said she had let it slide partly because their relationship was and is very amicable, and partly because, “Every time there is money for filing for divorce – the money was needed for something else.” But the woman said she was ready now and looking forward to a fresh start.
In Arizona, Kelly Reynolds said she will abstain from dating for the first part of 2011 because she’s recently been “trampled on and hurt and in the process I’ve lost myself.”
The 26-year-old graphic designer

hopes her time off from the dating scene will help her become more confident and find “someone wonderful.”
Comedian’s New Year’s resolutions
Reynolds designed an attractive list of 30 things she wants to accomplish by age 30 – including falling in love – that she carries with her and has posted at home and at work. She wrote the list last year and plans to tackle around 10 items every year.
She is training for a 5K run, working with a vocal coach so she can record a song she will write and she plans to take lessons in salsa dancing and cooking. She has researched farmers’ markets around Phoenix so she can become a locavore, someone who eats locally grown food.
Somewhere in her future she also will shoot a gun and get over her fear of heights by bungee jumping or riding in a hot air balloon.
But it’s not all about her – this year she also wants to find a way to help a stranger.
A stranger who became Asa Thibodaux’s mentor taught him to get very serious about his future. When he was young and “headed for jail or a coffin,” Thibodaux’s mentor helped him get his life on a better path. One piece of advice the older man gave: “If you don’t make goals, you’ll never have anything to work towards.”
Thibodaux, now happily married and working as a comedian in Minneapolis, tries to share the same advice with his daughters, who look at him as if he’s speaking a different language.
Thibodaux posted a funny video about some unusual resolutions, but when asked to for serious goals, he said he “was going to not get mad at idiots” and would drop his weight from 195 to 185 pounds by working out four times a week.
Kyle Avermann would like to find a job he could keep and enjoy for the next several years. The 23-year-old spent six months on unemployment this year and said he applied for hundreds of jobs before being hired for the holidays by the Gap store.
Avermann said he likes talking with people and learning new things each day and would like to work as a journalist someday.
He also plans to save some money so he can travel to Asia. Seattle has a large Asian community and he has fallen in love with the food and the culture.
Marie Sanger’s resolution is to “see new places” in Asia and she is wasting no time, departing to Bangkok, Thailand, this month. Also on her list are visits to Cambodia, India, Burma and Laos.
“When I visit different countries, I have a better understanding of the world in general,” she said.
Sanger said she always writes down her resolutions and cannot function without a list.



2011 goals: divorce, job and travel